I Will and I Won’t

It has been 226 days since my last blog post.


That’s a lot of days.  Too many.

I have some really good excuses for why I didn’t blog.  But they are uninteresting so we won’t dwell on them.  I’m ready to move forward and blog again!

Just a couple of months ago I was doing some much needed ironing.  (Do you let the ironing pile up too?)










The stack of wrinkled clothes was high and deep – I was gonna be hanging out with the ironing board for a while.  My mind somehow wandered ahead to 2014, goal-setting and New Year’s resolutions.  Before I could mentally list the usual goals (lose some weight, study the scriptures more, be nicer…) an idea popped into my head.  It was simple – I Will & I Won’t.  As I pressed my husband’s golf shirt, I decided to approach the New Year a little differently.  Each day, for one month, I will do something and I won’t  do something.  I brainstormed ideas.  Possibilities flowed like the steam streaming from the iron.  Here are a few of the ideas I am excited about:

For the month of January my “I Will” is to set a mini-goal each day and accomplish it.  Recently I’ve lost my confidence in setting and actually achieving goals.  I’m not sure if I believe I can set a goal and stick with it over a long period of time.  But, I know I can set a one-day-mini-goal and I will see it through.  Some of my mini-goals during the first week of January have included: writing a thank you card, writing a missionary from our ward, sending an email regarding my calling as Cub Scout Den Mother, and choosing a new book to read.  Simple. Accomplishable.

What is my “I Won’t” for the month of January?  It’s a good one.

I won’t overeat.  I will not stuff myself to the point of having to unbutton my pants, loosen my belt or change into sweatpants.  I will only eat to the point of feeling satisfied.  It has been hard.  I am definitely in the habit of overeating.  I love to eat.  I don’t want to stop.  When something tastes good, it only seems right to continue until there isn’t one millimeter of space left in my stomach. The greatest challenge to sticking with this came last Saturday when our family ate at the Cheesecake Factory.  That food is good.  And plentiful.  But I walked out of the restaurant feeling satisfied and in control.  It was worth it.

Each day as I have left food on my plate, I have estimated the number of calories I did not eat.  My guess is I have walked away from 1,760 calories in just 9 days.  If I keep that up, I will have saved myself a pound’s worth of calories (3,500) in no time.

I’m having so much fun with I Will and I Won’t! I am already thinking about what I’ll choose to do in February.

Blog to you soon,


P.S. My goal for today was to blog.  Check.

15 Responses to “I Will and I Won’t”

  1. Kelly Jason Says:

    You’re just awesome. I’m a big goal maker, but this year started with many unexpected distraction. So, my usual goal setting and planning never got done. I’ve been feeling a little lost and now I know how to get started again. Thanks for your wonderful inspiration and sharing.

  2. Beth Super Says:

    Your blog today is the most inspiring thing I have read in a longtime, and I sorely, SORELY needed it. Your idea of I Will and I Won’t is so good that I truly wish it were mine. Even though I did not think of it, I think I will adapt it for my own practice. Thank you for heeding that still, small voice that prompted you to share.

  3. Samantha Jeffery Says:

    I want to thank you for your music and uplifting and inspiring words. You have helped me through a lot of hard times. I deal with depression on a monthly basis. It is so difficult at times but I can listen to your music and it helps me get through. Thank you for using your gifts to help others. Sincerely, Samantha Jeffery.

  4. Celeste Says:

    My first thought was… you iron ?! In reading your fantastic & simplified idea of little changes of I won’t & I will , I started to feel as though I could accomplish this in my busy life & immediately felt excited! As I read your wont get u past 6 am I thought WHAT , but then realized I already do that I just slip back into bed after kids are out the door. I got a kick outta your Cheese Cake choices as I too did the very same thing , it was hard because their food is plentiful but packing 1/2 to go home was east once I mentally committed . Excited to focus on what changes I can accomplish & knowing that mindset falls into place with where it should as a daughter of God . Thank you for your efforts & example.

  5. Melissa Says:

    Very nice post! What you said about your dimished confidence in goals reminded me of this post that I like and thought you might too! http://m.entrepreneur.com/article/230333

  6. Velika Says:

    Have you heard of SMART goals? S-specific M-measurable A- attainable, R- realistic, T-timely
    Google smart goals, it is a really great way to set goals that you can accomplish.
    I think I may steal your I will, I won’t idea. Thanks!!
    By the way, I loved getting to see you at TOFW in Phoenix last year.

  7. Whitney Says:


    I’m so grateful that you kept your mini-goal today! You are such an inspiration to me!

    At the beginning of the school year, I heard “It’s a Good Day” and realized it fit perfectly with one of the Seven Habits, so I played it for my students. I love it! Also, our principal has introduced your clickers to our school. I have two in my classroom. I’ve assigned it as a classroom job. The students in charge click every time something positive is said or done in class. The kids and I love it!

    Thank you for being so awesome!

    Whitney Denton

  8. Crystal Critchfield Says:

    I love this idea. Makes goal setting much more manageable. Thanks for sharing!

  9. Brenda Says:

    I love it and your timing is excellent as we face this new year and another round of New Years Resolutions. I’m working hard at changing some lifelong bad habits as well as introducing some new healthy ones. This is great! Thanks so much for blogging today. I’ve been discouraged today, but this has picked me up.

  10. Elizabeth Rose Says:

    thanks for choosing to blog. I just started reading your blog today and have learned a lot from you. I decided to set a goal to do certain things and not do certain things too! thanks for sharing that goal in your blog! I wish you the best in accomplishing your goals!

  11. Peggy Says:

    I was just thinking this morning ‘I wonder if Hilary has made any blog posts lately–I need to check.’ So glad you did and posted it on facebook. I am always inspired by your thoughts. I think goal setting is daunting, too, because I have become too busy to think straight most days. But that is a great idea to set mini goals each day. I usually do make a ‘to do’ list and that could be added there. I think I need to work more on the ‘I won’t’ goals….

  12. Jessica Walker Says:

    Thanks for inspiring me, both with your music and your words. Thank you for being so real, and being willing to share your daily struggles and triumphs!

  13. Ang Says:

    I just had a sort of similar brainstorming session. My realization was “There is no reason NOT to…” do things that are good for me. I have *plenty* of excuses, but there are very few bona fide reasons for not praying, reading scriptures, writing in my gratitude journal, washing my face, intentionally getting some physical activity into my day, getting adequate hydration, getting adequate sleep, eating fruits/veg daily, etc. So now when I’m feeling full of excuses I remind myself “there is no genuine reason not to _________” and I just get it done. It feels good to have healthy choices becoming healthy habits. I love your I Will and I Won’t lists. Glad to have been linked to your blog today via FB :)

  14. Bron Williams Says:

    Thanks Hilary. Ur awesome :)
    I love your goals and this idea. Have you read Michelle Mays book ” eat what you love , love what you eat ?” It’s the most common sense approach to eating I have come across.
    Thanks for all you do
    Bron Williams
    Hobart tasmania

  15. Jennie Says:

    I LOVE this idea!!!! I may just have to try it!

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